This is one of the rare times when I write about something OTHER than business but I just felt compelled to share this with you all because I believe love relationships are so important to our every day lives. Want to enhance your relationship and strengthen how you communicate? Read on!
My husband and I have known each other for 13 years this year and have been married for over 6 and if you ask us the key to a strong, happy marriage is definitely communication. Without communication the trials of marriage and adulthood can become too much to bear and then that precious relationship can easily begin to break down under those stresses. When people stop talking about their feelings and their needs the relationship is bound to become strained. I have seen this time and time again, especially with younger couples.
One exercise my husband and I like to practice that enhances our communication is riding motorcycles 2 up. (meaning a driver in the front and a rider in the back)
Riding 2 up together on a bike effectively results in the rider being nearly perfectly in tune with the driver, especially when 2-way helmet intercoms are not used. and nothing says intimacy more to me than going 80 miles an hour on a motorcycle and trusting your driver with both your lives.
As a rider you learn to know what your driver’s body language means. Common non-verbal communication is needed to know when the driver is experiencing confidence or sports a dangerous situation ahead, when you need to duck down during acceleration or high winds, how to signal that you need to pull over, and even how to express joy or discomfort while riding.
Though I am writing from the rider’s perspective my observations are that, as a driver, you learn how to confidently handle the bike, the road, and the surrounding driving environment which makes your rider feel at ease, making the ride enjoyable for you both.
Being in tune with one another in this way is a feeling that I can not describe with mere words. It is something you have to experience yourself, only then will you understand. Once you have experienced it you will never forget the sensation. I can only liken it to some kind of cosmic connection- it just “clicks” when you’re riding with someone you trust and love.
How do you apply this to your life? Well, if you know how to drive a motorcycle or think you can learn then I highly recommend that you and your spouse or partner invest in a comfortable, more upright positioned bike and ride it together often because riding has greatly enhanced our marriage and the ways in which we communicate and know one another on a day to day basis.
If you apply this advice please let me know its effects on your relationship!