The Evils of at Home Product Parties

Have you ever seen people, usually women, post on facebook “I’m having a (spa party, girls night out party, passion party, scentsy party, jewelry party) please come it will be so much fun!” or “I’m looking to book a party please message me”?

Do you know what that’s about?  Well, my friend, they are trying to get you to attend their network marketing at home product party.

Yes. It’s true. Here’s how it goes. There is a rep or consultant. There is a host who opens their home to guests. Then there are the guests.

People come to the party, the rep starts showing the products and people start getting themselves excited about the products they are seeing. Then they buy like crazy.

This is called a high peer pressure situation. All the other guests are happily whipping out their cash and credit cards to give their info to a sales rep they just met and everybody feels the urge to spend.

What this does is make people spend money on non-necessity items like cookware, vibrators, makeup, candle wax warmers, and the like which makes that customer’s own monthly budget tight.

How do I know this? I saw it first hand. I made the mistake once of saying “sure you can host a party at my house” and I saw co-workers spend money on outrageously priced adult items like they were going out of style.

One co-worker even complained later that week that she was unable to pay all the electric bill because of the large purchase she had made at that party. Why did they do that? Because of peer pressure, pure and simple.

Those companies who purposely disquise their marketing plans as parties cause nothing but harm to the American pocketbook because they invite guests under the guise of a low key social event, corner them into listening to a sales pitch, then put them in a high pressure and high peer pressure buying sales situation.

Now are these victims able to say no? Yes. They have a choice but I have never seen someone at an at home product party say “no, I really can’t afford it this month. I will buy next time” without the rep saying “oh, darn-well you should know these will go really fast,” “you deserve it- just be tighten on your budget next month,” etc.

Mary Kay, Passion Parties, Partylite, Avon, Pampered Chef, Scentsy- I’m talking to you. Stop deceiving consumers and luring them into high pressure sales situations! There are hundreds of other guilty companies. Too many to name, sadly.

Have you ever been a witness or victim of a high peer pressure buying situation disguised as an at home party? Please share your experiences with me!


Happiness is a Choice

Most people tell me  they HATE how cheerful I am even when bad things happen to me….but I tell them there was a time when I WAS gloomy and complained about everything. It was when I worked as a director of marketing for 26 stores in 5 states. I dealt with stuff that annoyed me ALL day so the last thing I wanted to do when I got off work was interact with people. I hated the old me. The old me was very unhappy and it showed.

So. Happiness is a choice. I choose to be happy and to see the bright side of things. Is it always easy? Heck no. Sometimes it’s downright difficult, like today.

Here”s how my day went:

Woke up before my alarm. David called saying he forgot something for work. I got up, got ready, took his stuff to work then headed out to UAMS for my 8:30 am standardized patient session.

I go to get gas. The machine won’t take my card for the first time ever. I have to run inside and it’s a problem with the machine. (I’m going to be late at this point)

Then when I got onto 440 I got a chip in my windshield. Then about 15 minutes later I narrowly escaped death. Seriously. I was in the fast lane and before I knew it a dump truck 3 or 4 cars ahead came to a dead stop and we were all going about 80 mph. I somehow slid my car into the left break down lane and ended up inches away from the cement barrier and at an angle into the left lane. I should have gotten clipped after the incident AND should have hit the car in front of me but somehow that never happened. Everything happened so fast and I KNOW there was someone right behind me so my only explanation is that someone upstairs was watching out for me.

I sit there a minute- regrouping. Then I get back on the interstate. I get to UAMS. The parking lot ticket machine is broken (we get our parking validated by the college of medicine).

Needless to say… just about everything that COULD go wrong did go wrong today yet I was just thankful to be alive and to have the opportunity to help others. Life is just too short to get mad or stressed out over the little things. Do I still get stressed? Of course. Everybody does…but the key is to stay in control and keep it from ruining your day AND keep it from changing how you treat people.

How do you deal with life’s everyday stresses?